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  Has there been any progress on a herpes vaccine, like is mentioned here?  http://www.news.herpes-nomore.com/?p=275

I am newly diagnosed with genital herpes.  My family practitioner discussed suppression medication with me and I have been taking it for about 2 months now.  I had a chat with my gynecologist the other day and he doesn't recommend daily suppression.  He advises that I just take acyclovir whenever I have outbreaks.  Have any of you received conflicting information like this? 

There are a number of factors involved with transmission of the disease.  A person with Herpes is not contagious all of the time.  There is a certain time where someone will be shedding the virus and also have an outbreak.  This is the time when it is possible to spread Herpes.  Then the virus will go into remission.  It is a cycle.  So it is possible to have unprotected sex without passing it onto a partner.  But the tricky thing is that the person who has herpes may not always know when they are shedding or have an outbreak. 

I have had genital herpes for about 17 years now. I still have a few un-answered questions, but not many. I feel like I could be od some help for others that have been newly diagnosed. I have birthed four children, been married for over 8 years, and I haven't had an outbreak for many years. It has probably been at least 5 years since my last occurence. I wonder if it is ever going to show up as a meningitis-type-infection. I don't know where to go from here. All I know is what has happened thus far.

You spend a LOT of time at first worrying... If you're gonna give it to your partner, IS it gonna ruin your life, AM I gonna be able to get through this??? And the answer to all of these questions is simple. You just have to take it day by day. Herpes is NOT the end of your life. Heck, it's not even the end of your sexual activity. There are so many people out there that have genital Herpes, you may even be with someone who has it and you didn't know. Even if your partner doesn't have it, they will probably stay with you even though you have herpes. Honesty will take you a long way. Not that I can speak about being honest... I haven't even told my husband of OVER 8 years that I have had genital herpes since I was 12. When we first got together I noticed that he had cold sores, so I just never said anything. I think I am gonna tell him tonight though. We have found a love that is sooo overwhelming that I don't think even this news will break that apart. As lomg as I'm not cheating on him, he can handle pretty much anything I tell him. So, tonight is the night. Wish me luck...

I have had genital herpes since I was 12 years old. I am now 29. At first the onset was very hrd to deal with. I had painful lesions that came back quite often. I don't know how many people I may have infected. I never informed anyone that I had herpes. I haven't had a recurrent episode for years. I may never get another one from what I understand. I have given birth to 4 children in the mean time, and I have been married for over 8 years. Everything is good so far. I just need to tell my husband that I have had herpes since I was a child. That is gonna be the hard part.

I have had herpes for 20 years. I am professionally successful, have many friends, had many relationships, and have not let herpes define me. Over the years, I have gone out with four men, all long term, and had the talk with each of them. All of these men were wonderful about it, including one I was married to for six years. It didn't turn them off at all. About a month ago, I met someone new and really liked him. He was that typical "nice guy" ... he said he often had problems with women because he was "too nice." Unlike many of the men I have dated, he had led a somewhat sheltered life. We talked for hours on the phone each night, said that we felt we had known each other for longer than a month, and were looking forward to doing things together later this summer and fall. Earlier this week, we had the talk. And he dumped me. He said he was surprised and disappointed that he couldn't get over it. But he couldn't. I am crushed. I had come to believe that no many I ever met would react this way. Does anyone have any words of comfort or wisdom for me?

I'm in need of help, mental and physical. I feel as if I'm losing my mind. I went to the ER today after attempting to cure what I thought was yeast for 3 days, The doctor had to numb my vagina just to get the spectrum inside me. I was devestated when I heard her say " I'm pretty sure you have herpes" I immediately began to cry and panic; all I could think was " God, why me?" I've had the same partner for almost 8 years, I'm 28 and he is 38, I've been dealing with his infedelity for about 4 years. I feel as if I've loved this man so much that I've completely forgot how to love and PROTECT myself. I'm so ashamed, I feel like a failure, as if I truly cant go on... I need advice and FAST..........
I'm a mother of a 4yr old and his is the most important person in mylife, he is the reason I'm breathing at this moment.
My heart is broken, the man in my life is not offering support as he cant seem to understand how this can possible be.
Someone, Please help me educate myself and heal this broken heart of mine................
I must sit in pain and terror for the next 7-10 days....................

***Lost and Afraid*****

I was also recently diagnosed with genital herpes; yesterday to be exact. This has been the hardest thing for me to deal with. The man I was with showed absolutely no signs, and he gets tested regularly. We always had protected sex, but having oral sex knocked that fact right out of the water since that is most likely how I contracted the virus. My flaw was that I did not ask all the right questions in the begining. He slept with a woman shortly after being tested, which everything came out negative. A couple of weeks later we met. I trusted him and therefore the questions never came up...until the sores began to show up. There are a lot of things that I regret. I fear that my relationship is ruined with him because he's in denial about himself. But people need to know that you dont have to have any symptoms if you have herpes, its different for everyone. His confidence in himself began to make me doubt myself. Im not promiscuous, I was a virgin before we had sex, but i cant help but feel disgusting. I feel like an embarrassment to my family, even though the say they still love me. I feel hopeless about my future relationships, and of course full of regret that the one and only person I have ever given myself to had to be infected with herpes. Some days im ok, others i cant stop crying. I dont know how im going to make it through this,  but i thank God everyday that its just herpes. I could have had AIDS or Cancer, were im greatful that i dont, but its still hard to cope with.
(p.S. just to make things clear, my symptoms showed up about two weeks ago, and with a little online research, I pretty much new it was herpes, but earlier this week I was tested and the results confirmed it yesterday.)

Im not an expert, but the best advice I can offer you for now is to look it up online. Thats how I found out that I had Herpes a couple of weeks ago. I compared my sores to pictures, and then went to my doctor, which is the absolute best thing for you to do. The quicker you get professional input the better, because let me tell you, the worry and stress that comes from not knowing is unbearable. Also, if it is herpes, the quicker you get treatment the better. Most doctors can tell right away what the problem may be,as mine did, but blood tests are much better. If your doctor doesnt mention one its always ok to request one. I hope that you can benefit from this.