personal experiences?

I spent a wonderful time talking to a man one evening and we began to kiss. After we said goodbye for the evening, I immediately went inside and felt my heartbeating louder and louder. I had to tell him. I said, I have to be completely honest with you and see where this takes me. You are a wonderful man and I enjoy our conversations and feel a real connection with you. I do have an STD and would love to share the details with you if you want to hear about it. But I thought you should know prior to considering another evening with me. I don't think anything we did tonight puts you at risk for Herpes.

He called me the very next day to discuss it and wanted to know all about the disease and how I contracted it, etc. He then kissed me... that was the sweetest, most giving kiss I have ever received. Granted, we still are not dating regularly and he still asks questions about how to be intimate without contracting, but he didn't treat me like a freak.

Being with me, a woman with Herpes, means it has to be a meaningful, healthy, open communication type of relationship. There is no room for other partners or casual encounters. AND most importantly, assume the risk. I can't assume the responsibility and risk for you. That is what I shared with him and I advise you to do the same. I have yet to have sex since I contracted the disease but since meeting this man (not that he will be that man), I know that one day, I will.

Unmarried Mommy